ORIGIN
AND MECHANISM OF CANCERS AND OTHER DISEASES:
THE DISCOVERIES
OF DOCTOR R. G. HAMER
Conference
by Dr. M. Henrard / September 16, 1994 in Brussels
EXPLANATORY
NOTE : This conference was entirely improvised on the basis of a scheme
written down on a small sheet of paper. Its loyal transcription from
radio cassettes proved to be illegible. So, I somewhat modified it:
I especially improved the style in order to make it more presentable,
suppressed the too frequent repetitions, completed several explanations,
filled in some omissions (by means of notes between brackets). I kept
its original length though (some fifty pages), hence the addition of
a mini summary allowing to fastly return to the large divisions and
to go directly to the examples.
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BOOKLET
Examples
I
have chosen a variety of examples, non-malignant cases, malignant
cases, trying that each of the cases more precisely illustrates a
notion or an aspect of the method.
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In
this first case I am presenting you, I will not tell the whole story
because I chose it to testify of the urgency, which sometimes shows.
The patient is a woman aged about 45, who was just operated on for
a small tumour of about one centimetre in the breast. One only excised
the tumour because one was persuaded, based on the preliminary examinations,
that the tumour was non-malignant. And one reassured her saying there
would be no consequences. Some days later though, a telephone call
from the hospital makes her panic : the microscopic analysis showed
that it was a cancer. A, very probably, total removal of the breast
was foreseen for the next week including of course the axillary ganglions.
Next, a radiotherapy and, if affected ganglions were found, a chemotherapy.
In short : the classical therapeutic scheme.
I see her a few days
before the date foreseen for the start of the gear. Unfortunately,
I had only one hour, what was much too short to explain an approach
unknown to her and to make up a complete diagnosis : was it a reparation
tumour and, in that case, after having evaluated the conflict, was
it still going to grow? Because, if the second phase was not ended
yet, the proliferation was going to start again. Or, on the contrary,
was it a contemporary tumour of the conflictual phase and, in that
case, what was the stage of the conflict? So I have chosen just to
try to postpone the operation, as there was only urgency as to the
choice, but a choice heavy with consequences. I gave her enough explanations
and arguments to accept at least to postpone an eventual operation,
after a diagnosis that would permit her to take her decision more
calmly and with more lucidity.
At the end of the
consultation, the patient agreed but embarrassed she said that the
opinion of her husband was indispensable. The next day, it was my
turn to go through an examination, giving the same discourse to the
couple. After the repetition, I was glad to notice that the woman
was already more reassured and confident. But the husband having almost
not spoken a word, I could not refrain from asking why he had insisted
that much to see me. He answered me : “When my wife told me about
the conversation she had with you, I wanted to know whether she had
seen a doctor or a madman!” Seizing the opportunity, I asked him what
his diagnosis was : it was in my favour. You are laughing with the
anecdote, but I wanted to keep it to evoke a very frequent situation
: the solitude felt by a lot of patients when choosing an approach
often criticised by their familiars … not to talk about the classical
medical opinion where the term “criticism” is more than a euphemism.
Notwithstanding her
persisting anxiety for “metastases”, the important pressure of her
familiars, and the severe warning of the surgeon who confirmed that
the ablation had to be total, I could make up the diagnostic work
with that woman. It was long and difficult because during the years
preceding her tumour, she had lived four conflicts. A first one was
rapidly discarded because it was linked to her profession and that
the problematic linked to the breast is affective. A second one too
because it was too far away and did not really involve a shock. I
was not able to distinguish which of the two latter ones was at the
origin of the tumour, but what I was sure of is that they were solved
and that, even if it most probably concerned a reparation tumour,
the second phase was close to its end. This certitude was based on
several conversation hours and I explained my conclusions to her :
a tumour had been removed leaving only a cicatrise, a harmless sequel
; nor relapse, nor of course, metastases to fear. And I pleaded in
favour of “not doing anything” – or, more exactly, of doing nothing
more – to take up the example cited in the beginning of this lecture.
The operation and its consequences risked provoking a mutilation,
a de-valorisation, fear, etc. conflict. But I did have to examine
and reassure her during at least one year. The initial confidence
progressively turned into a conviction before the evidence of the
facts. And during the years that followed, she never regretted … having
kept her breast!

2. ECZEMAS
Now
let me tell you two stories about eczema. I put them together because
in one I had assembled all the conditions to make a good diagnosis,
but I made a mistake, while in the other, with a minimum of information,
the diagnosis was particularly precise. This double example illustrates
the difficulties to establish a good anamnesis i.e. the questioning
of the patient.
1st
case
The mother, a regular
patient already, brings her little daughter aged about ten. The child
showed a very small eczema at one armpit, the size of a pound coin.
I will ask you here to remember the dates, as it are important clues
to make the correct cross-sections. I see this child around half October.
Even before the mother spoke, I knew that the little girl has solved
a separation conflict as the eczema is in its second phase. Always
starting with the medical history of the symptoms, I ask the mother
since when her daughter shows this eczema : maximum one week. The
point was to discover the kind of conflict and especially its duration
since eczema, as I told you, may last a week or five years. It is
only the mother that I will have to question as the little girl, always
smiling, answers that she had had no problem. I ask her : “What could
have disturbed your daughter the weeks, and even the months having
preceded and especially in an affective field?” I most often put rather
general questions at first, in order to try not to influence the answers
and to let the patient spontaneously express his conflict : it makes
him better understand the approach. Ant that, even if I have to pass,
as it is the case here, through an intermediate.
The mother rather
quickly explains the following interesting story. Her daughter cried
in the beginning of October as the female school teacher she had in
September, and that she adored, was replaced by a male teacher she
did not like at all. I say to myself that this “sticks” perfectly.
The separation conflict from this female teacher starts on October
1st and its solution dated from a week already. The conflict,
as far as I am concerned, did only last about one week. I explain
my reasoning to the mother and tell her that within eight days, we
would not talk about it anymore. A treatment was not even necessary.
Ten days later, I
receive a telephone call from the mother : “Doctor, do you remember
my daughter? You said the eczema would disappear within one week.
Now, her eczema has become much more important, she has both armpits
covered with purulent eczema, the size of an adult hand palm.” I immediately
realise the double mistake I made : firstly, I wrongly evaluated the
importance of the conflict that I thought to be unique and, secondly,
I missed the second conflict. It was also a separation conflict but
in an entirely different field as the other armpit was affected. What
is more, it entered solution after our first conversation. Before
the dawning concern of the mother, the symptoms having become painful
for the child, and willing to repair an incomplete work, I see them
on the same day.
After having explained
the lacks in my diagnosis, I start questioning the mother again, in
search of the second conflict. It was harsher at this point and I
had to insist on the fact that something else must surely have happened.
Finally, a little embarrassed, the mother remembers : “Half September,
she cried when we told her that we were going on holidays until the
end of the month. We were astonished as it was not the first time
we left without the children, and it had never been a problem before.”
Never been a problem that was for the preceding holidays, but the
tears of the child testified that these vacations – for one reason
of another – had been experienced very differently!
This supplement of
information enabled a complete “reconstitution” and diagnosis. A first
separation conflict with the parents, having lasted about ten days,
is solved early October, with a first eczema the importance of the
underlying conflict I had underestimated. The eczema I took for the
solution of the female teacher problem, was the solution of the separation
conflict with the parents. It is only afterwards, what is much more
logical, that the solution of the conflict with the female teacher
interfered, when the little girl finally accepted the idea not to
have her anymore that the other eczema has started to develop. The
consequence was as coherent as the corrected diagnosis : both eczema’s
disappeared one after another within a six weeks delay, leaving no
trace. A homeopathic treatment was added to relieve the child.
(Note : I spoke of
a diagnostic “mistake” in this example and I would like to rapidly
take up this reality. When handling the biological laws, one may make
multiple mistakes. One of the most consistent ones would be to reassure
a patient, talking about a reparation tumour that is going to stop,
while the affected tissue proliferates in its first phase, and especially
if one has not understood that this conflict is still active! But
most of the mistakes are to be relativised, as they result from an
insufficient collection of information, especially on the evaluation
of the conflict. But this collection is the result of the indispensable
collaboration and confidence between the doctor and his patient. Remember
the difficulty of an implication with the patient, I evoked in the
introduction : he might have forgotten a key element of his life experience,
or judge it too innocuous to talk about it, or be embarrassed to express
it. Whereas the doctor, he can not enough lend a listening ear for
a whole series of details, but which may prove to be essential : a
hesitation, a silence, and an emotion on the face, in the voice or
even the choice of a word. Now is the opportunity to cite one of Dr.
Hamer’s principal pieces of advice : “Before being a doctor, first
be a detective and treat the patient with all the respect he deserves,
as if he were a friend.”).

2nd
case
Both parents come
with their little boy, also aged about 10. The eczema lasted ten days
already, was clearly marked at arms and legs, and itched a lot. But
here, the anamnesis looked very unpromising : the few usual questions
to know what disturbed the child did not have the slightest effect.
In short: useless to start talking about the biological laws, the
conflicts, etc. Besides, the parents that I was seeing for the first
time only wanted to try homeopathy. But, as in the former case, I
wanted to know how long the child would be suffering … and without
being able to explain to the parents how long “homeopathy would have
to be tried”. Then, I tried an indirect way, cautiously putting two
kinds of questions.
First pretexting that
an eczema could sometimes follow a state of irritability, I asked
the parents if they had not noticed an unusual modification in his
attitude lately : at school, at home, anywhere ; thus a very vague
question, without alluding to a psychic problem. It is the father
who answers : “The teacher convened us because his school results
were clearly going down as where usually they were very good.” I learn
this way that this decline has started about two months, to end up
in a last normal school report and that this was two or three weeks
ago. But the eczema had started ten days ago! I satisfy myself with
this information, since I have nothing more. It was simply testifying
that the child had been in a conflict, but which one?
Second, more “risky”
question as it concerned the parents too : “Did something different
happen in your everyday life, at home, in your rhythm of life, in
the events?” Now, it is the mother who answers : “Well I went working
as an interim.” I then learn that this woman usually does not work
outside and that she had to go out in the evening when the child came
back from school. You will have guessed the last question : from when
and till when this unusual interim? By a couple of days, the period
corresponded to the bad school results!
The separation conflict
with the mother having lasted two months, I could play sorcerer and
seer. I prescribed a first homeopathic treatment of 40 days, saying
that the eczema might not be completely finished, but would have very
much improved. And if some of it was remaining, I would prescribe
a second treatment and there, it would all be over. Six weeks later,
the parents show me their child, enchanted with the result : 80 %
of the eczema had disappeared. I prescribed another month’s treatment
asking just to see the child if he developed eczema again and precising
that this affection is not chronic at all. I have not seen him again
and, personally, I was not enchanted, as were the parents. I regretted
not having been able to explain them why their son developed that
eczema, and to let them believe that I cured him with homeopathy.
To me, each consultation is the opportunity to start or to deepen
the patient’s knowledge of the biological laws.
3.
BRONCHIAL CANCER metastasising
IN THE BRAIN
This third example
is sad and dramatic. I have chosen it because it highlights a problem
I am often confronted with, i.e. a fortuitous discovery of a cancer,
most probably during a screening. And also because it shows the tragic
mistakes arising from the sole consideration of the physical lesions
without taking into account the history of the patient and often even,
as it is the case here, the evolution of these lesions.
It is during the month
of May that this sixty-year-old woman comes to consult me. Her extreme
weakness, her greyish complexion and her wig make me guess the kind
of diagnosis. She explains that she has a lung cancer metastasised
in the brain, and her despair of having learned that she had only
six months to live. The discovery dated from January and here, I lost
some time putting her immediately a whole series of questions on her
clinical state at that time : “Did you cough at that time? Did you
expectorate? Were you oppressed? Did it hurt? Did you loose weight?
Were you tired? Did you loose appetite? etc.” Each time the answer
was negative : in fact, this woman was in top condition, leading an
athletic, social and leisured life. I had better first asked the question
: “How was this cancer discovered?” She then shows me the lung X-ray
and the cerebral scanning made in January. On the X-ray one sees an
important mass with a diameter of 3-4 cm right in the middle of the
inferior lobe of the right lung and, on the scanning, a small whity
mass with a diameter of about 5-7 mm at the left frontal lobe. Then
she starts her rather hallucinating story.
It happened at the
end of last year. “I felt so good, Doctor, since years, but seeing
my age, I wanted to have an esthetical operation done, a face lift.”
But the face lift being an operation, it meant : blood sampling, electrocardiogram
and an X-ray of the thorax, three examinations I do not at all contest
as they are useful to the surgeon and the anaesthetist. The blood
sample? Nothing special. The electrocardiogram? They said she had
an excellent heart. She goes on : “But they told me that the face
lift had to be given up or postponed because they, unfortunately,
discovered a lung cancer on the X-ray.” That is where the whole machinery
starts. If you say cancer, you say generalisation check-up i.e. a
whole series of examinations to see if there are no metastases elsewhere.
The small spot on the scanning is interpreted as a metastasis, what
excludes the operation of the bronchial tumour. Next, one makes her
husband believe she has only six months, maybe a little more, to live.
She quickly learns about it and considers herself condemned. They
start an intensive chemotherapy treatment, but with little hope for
success.
When examining the
documents made in January, but taking into consideration the biological
laws, I understand the mistake. On the lung X-ray, one observes that
the tumour, evidently a bronchial tumour, is perfectly defined : the
limit between the tumour and the rest of the pulmonary tissue is very
well marked off. That is what Dr. Hamer calls an “old cuckoo”, i.e.
a completely finished and stabilised lesion, remnant of a solved conflict
and of a completed second phase. Remember the scheme of the bronchial
affection, I described when going through the third law, and its two
phases : the second entails a constriction of the pulmonary area which
not ventilated any longer, considering the proliferation of the bronchial
mucous, since it ends up obstructing the bronchi. At the end of the
second phase only a non-functional part of the lung subsists, which
is, however, unimportant and symptom-free. One has to keep one’s good
sense : why worry – and a fortiori operate – a simple sequel, even
if it has the size of an orange when someone can live with one single
lung?
The brain “metastasis”
evenso testified of its ancienty. It was only visible on the clichés
after the injection of the contrast liquid, especially evidencing
the glial proliferations of the brain. Not a slightest sign of oedema
was visible around that small whity mass : proof of a cerebral centre
the reparation of which was ended and only leaving here a harmless
trace. But concerning this scanning I made a diagnostic error. At
that time I did not know the map of the brain very well and I switched
sides. I thought that the spot corresponded to the pulmonary lesion.
But the bronchial relay is situated in the right fronto-lateral position
and its glial cicatrise being at the same level, but at the left side,
must have related to an ancient affection of the thyroid or the larynx.
The patient informed me that she had had other cancers in her life,
but I only took care of her pulmonary cancer. That is thus another
type of a possible error : in the lecture of the scanning. It, fortunately,
was without any consequence, because it did not change anything to
the fact that the bronchial tumour and the tumour at the brain were
ancient histories.
She had also handed
me the rest of the examinations meant to control the effect of the
treatment : three other lung X-rays, made at a one month interval
and a second brain scanning performed in April. When cautiously comparing
them, I noticed what could perfectly be foreseen : nothing had changed.
Thanks to these documents, I start giving her the first explanations
: why she could feel in such a good health with a lung cancer metastasised
in the brain, why chemotherapy could not alter her “tumours”, this
therapy only acting on cells in the process of multiplication and
not on ordinary cicatrises, be they atelectatic, glial or of any other
nature.
I then search for
the conflict that could date six months as well as 10 years. She tells
me about an important professional conflict she had some years ago
and that lasted a little less than one year. She had solved it completely
by putting the affair in the hands of a lawyer. Afterwards she had
been very tired, but she does not remember if she coughed or expectorated
a lot. She thinks she had some respiratory symptoms, what I would
ascribe to the fact that the tumour was very peripheral. The cross
section between the conflict and its lesions being done, I end my
explanations : one accidentally discovered the traces of an ancient
problem, she does not suffer an evolutive cancer and there is no danger.
As to the treatment weakening her a lot, I repeat its uselessness.
The patient, and her husband, who was accompanying her, seemed to
have well understood and we took leave after this first conversation.
The next week, she
calls me and confirms that she has obviously understood and remembered
everything : “You remember, I lengthily consulted you last week. You
explained me that there was nothing serious, that my cancer was ancient
history, that it was cured, that the metastasis at my brain was not
a metastasis, but a cicatrise at the brain, etc.” Then she goes on
: “Listen Doctor, I would really like to believe you. What you say
is reassuring and very hopeful, but I do not succeed doing so! I have
seen several cancerologists before consulting you. I did not tell
you but I did not only consult in the hospital that takes care of
me and they were all unanimous to say that I had a lung cancer metastasising
in the brain and that I only had a few months left to live and that
the only thing I could do to prolong my life was chemotherapy. So,
you understand…” She hung up very politely, leaving me with a feeling
of sadness and powerlessness, I will not hide from you. I have never
seen this patient again.
I would like to end
this example by taking up the screening.
If you decide to go through one, do not forget this very important
advice : if one day they find something, no matter where, make sure
to know whether it is evolutive or not. What is the use of operating,
mutilating someone whom had a conflict five or ten years ago and who
keeps the traces of it inside his body ? If one made someone aged 50
or 60 go through a scanner or through magnetic resonance, from the
roots of his hair to the top of his toes, you can be sure that, with
everyone, an abnormality would be discovered. Who, at that age in
his life, has never lived at least one conflict, lasting some weeks
or months, but sufficient to “mark” him physically? And who does not
house within his body a polyp, a cyst or any other kind of tumour,
micro-calcification, antibodies, etc.? These accidental discoveries
may be considered suspect, and the patient may be plunged into anxiety
and incisive treatments. I have seen too many lives, peaceful before
screening, topple over in a nightmare, such as the one I just presented
to you. In front of such “double or quits”, the biological laws are
precious, because the scrupulously careful analysis of a complete
diagnosis will allow to take a decision with full knowledge of the
facts.

4.
LUMBAGO
The person whose case
I am going to develop is in the audience. But knowing her very well
and seeing her glance, I think I may keep this fourth example. I will,
though, remain discreet. This woman aged about forty came to consult
me for a back pain lasting for some days. After the usual examinations
of the symptoms, I question her on what happened, and she tells me
about a physical effort she did during a yoga session. I then ask
her if she is making a fool of me!
Why such a lack of
tact from my side? In fact, I put this question gently, as giving
a wink, evoking a very recent past. I had seen her already some months
before to complete a very alarming diagnosis : relapse of a kidney
cancer, which was removed though, with various metastases. Besides
the very comprehensible anxiety, she felt good and had refused chemotherapy.
She just came to understand. Some hours of mutual work, where the
collaboration was excellent, allowed me to make a totally reassuring
establishment : all her conflicts were solved. The only one that we
could fear still was a conflict of fearing to die resulting from the
resentment of the diagnosis. Before consulting me, though, she had
several times consulted a psychologist who was acquainted with Dr.
Hamer’s work and who had helped her a lot already. Our conversations
had ended up defusing what I consider as being one of the worst “time
bombs» : a diagnosis of a very severe affection. This reason, being
all the experience she had acquired, made me put this small impertinent
question.
I make a fresh attempt,
discarding this history of physical effort. She tells me about a rather
harsh quarrel with one of her children. Not receiving any other track,
I had to know why a lumbago and evaluate its duration according to
the conflict. The lumbago was explained by her life-experience : she
felt humiliated, diminished, not acknowledged ; the devalorisation
conflict was evident. To determine its importance, she gave me all
the elements. The quarrel took place about ten days before the start
of the pain. The conflict had been solved with the help of her husband
who had talked to their child. The next day, her awakening was extremely
painful! The consultation came to an end : I announce her a rapid
relief, she has confidence in me and refuses a treatment, since her
pain is bearable and it will finish within a few days…
A fortnight later,
her husband comes to consult me. Before coming to his case, I ask
him about his wife’s health. “She is in a very bad state, Doctor.
She does not leave her bed at the moment. She has a lot of pain and
is not even able to come and see you.” I did not find anything else
to say than : “I must have made a mistake in the diagnosis. I must
not have considered the whole of the problem. Tell your wife that
I am very sorry, that she can call me and visit me as soon as she
is in a better state.” One month later, she accompanies her husband
to the consultation. Embarrassed, I first talk to her for a while,
telling her that her husband informed me that the little lumbago I
had predicted and for which I did not prescribe any treatment, had
finally lasted five to six weeks, that she had endured terrible pain,
etc. She interrupted me with a big smile and her reaction completely
astonished me : “But it is not your fault, Doctor. After our conversation,
I reflected a long time on what you had said, devalorisation conflict,
the back and all that. I found that I not only solved the conflict
we talked about, but that within two or three days, I solved four
devalorisation conflicts, the largest of which having lasted about
six weeks.” She exposes precisely the four conflicts and then she
adds : “I did not want to disturb you because I understood that I
would have pain for a much longer period and I wangled to get out
of it.” I congratulated her for having done the work all by herself
… and I could have kissed her. Patients like that are not seen very
often.
(Afterwards, she told
me she had had a lot of fun listening to me telling her story and
the way I did it. She spoke about it herself, as well as about her
generalised cancer, to persons she tried to help by means of her testimony.)

The next case will
be very brief. It only concerns the outline of a diagnosis. I have
chosen it among the numerous examples of the kind for two reasons.
Patients often ask questions on relatives during their own consultation.
In this demand, the conversation is forcedly very short and does bring
but a few informations. But the handling of the biological laws allows
then selecting some essential questions, being sufficient for the
first comprehension.
A patient tells me
at the end of our consultations : “It is bizarre though, I never understood
why my mother died two years after her breast cancer, following lung
metastases, when she felt so well during those two years.” I was writing
my papers, but since it concerned her mother and since this demand
for comprehension necessitated only two questions, I somewhat lengthened
the consultation. I first explained her there are no metastases and
that the pulmonary affection was due to a new conflict, two years
after the one having provoked the breast cancer.
First question : Did
the doctors speak about one single metastasis or of several? This
first distinction is based on the 3rd law : if the lesions
were multiple, the alveolar tissue had been affected and the conflict
was the fear to die ; if the “metastasis” was unique, and seeing its
importance for the woman died of it, it was a bronchial affection,
and the conflict was the threat of the territory. With this information,
I could more rapidly search for the conflict. Answer : “They told
me that her entire lungs were invaded.”
Second question :
during the weeks or months having preceded the metastasis diagnosis,
what had her mother feared so much? The patient thinks and says :
“Yes, I see one thing. Some months before, my brother had a very serious
car accident. He was in a coma for weeks before dying, and my mother
worried herself sick about him.” I explain then that that drama lies
at the origin of the alveolar lesions at the lung, and precise that
her mother has had a conflict of fear to die by association.
This case brings me
to evoke another characteristic of the conflict : it may occur in
an association process to what another person is living. But then,
of course, it implies that the other person has such an importance
for us, that we identify ourselves to that person. A parent, for example,
may feel himself a failure or a humiliation problem of his child and
develop himself a devalorisation conflict. And this, independent of
the child’s own experience which may entail the same or another conflict
… or none if this experience was not conflictual at all.
(Note : This kind
of “express diagnosis” is of course very limited and only as often
ends up in putting forward hypotheses, in giving only search tracks
by indicating the type of conflict. But it is not to be neglected
as it allows the patient questioning himself on the disease of others,
to further enlarge his field of verification of the biological laws.
It adds up to the pedagogic interest of the examples I often use during
the conversations I have in order to complete the explanations. The
results corroborate it because I now more and more hear reflections
such as : “I now understand why my husband developed that hepatitis
while I had nothing.” “I said to myself that there must have been
a link between my colleague’s cancer and the accusations that made
him be fired.” “I asked my daughter what happened before her tracheitis.
She confirmed that she had very badly lived this type of situation.”
Etc.

6.
POLYARTHRITIS
The next example will
once again demonstrate the difficulty and the rigour necessary to
an in-depth analysis. I would entitle it : “the missing link”. It
concerns a woman aged about 35, who is affected with polyarthritis
: an inflammation affecting several articulations.
I see her in July,
here again, remember the dates. The disease started in March, in the
middle of the holidays, where she felt well and had an excellent mood.
After two months of worsening and in spite of the antalgic and anti-inflammatory
drugs, in June, she painfully walked with two crutches, suffering
from the upper limbs and the back as well. More elaborate examinations
ended up in the pessimistic diagnosis of chronic
evolutive polyarthritis and a treatment of high-dose cortisone
was prescribed, what had very rapidly and remarkably relieved her
pain. She consulted me six weeks after the start of this treatment
because the doses having been largely reduced, the pain tended to
come back. After the history of the symptoms, I come to the one of
the conflict. The aim being, as ever, to understand together and to
know how long she would have to be treated.
Without telling her
that polyarthritis is the second phase of a hindrance conflict, felt
in a more or less generalised manner, I put the usual questions on
what could have disturbed her before her affection. But there was
nothing special, however before my insistence, she explains me she
feels choked up with her children : she can almost do nothing anymore,
it is difficult to go out without having to appeal to a baby-sitter,
the liberty of their couple is very much restricted, etc. It all had
started with the birth of her oldest child three ago and it continued
with the birth of her second child two years later. She tells me a
hindrance situation in which I do not see anything conflictual, though,
nor a striking shock. It is though the field she speaks about and
stresses her feeling of constraint. I say to myself that there might
be a link and that first this single track should be explored.
I first bring to her
attention that her situation is similar to that of a lot of women
with two young children and that I do not think that this could be
at the origin of her disease. I then ask her if, since that constraining
change in her life, any unforeseen event took place where she felt
evidently more hindered and choked up. The question was now precise
and, coming up with the hindrance theme in relation with her pathology,
I hoped that the door would open. She thought for a while and says
: “Yes, there is something which worried me a lot during at least
six months.” And here the story becomes interesting. “Well, at the
birth of the second child, when the sudden death tests were performed,
they told me his test was positive and that there was a risk. They
then gave us a monitor to be installed at home.” By talking lengthily
about this monitoring and its consequences, it revealed to be the
occasion of the “dragging”. It was no longer a simple “back drop”,
the very normal liberty restriction of a woman with young children.
It had become a real nightmare, an obsession : the device often beeped
without reason, she went up the stairs ten times a day to see how
her baby was doing, including the nights which were seriously reduced
; and as far as the outings were concerned, they could be counted
on the fingers of one hand. During this whole period : not one single
symptom at the level of the articulations.
We could have stopped
here, the essential elements having been gathered. The conflict was
hindrance, indeed. It had lasted six months, having started with the
monitoring and solved before her pain started. And, as I saw her in
July, the second phase was near to its end, as she was suffering since
five months. But I wanted a more complete cross-section between the
symptoms and the life-experience, while also checking how the conflict
had been solved. At this point, the case becomes even more didactical.
But, before coming
to the solution, I would like to come back a moment on this hindrance
conflict. You could ask yourself why this woman did not develop a
conflict of fear for her child rather than a hindrance conflict, or
at least both of them. The explanation resides in the observation
of the facts and not in a personal interpretation thereof! First,
the reading at the level of the body is evident : she developed a
polyarthritis and not another pathology. Next, when listening closely
to her resentment, it clearly highlights the predominance of a hindrance
feeling. She did, of course, speak of anxiety but it did not last
long, only at the announcement of the risk for sudden death. What
is more, it was solved by means of the monitoring, and there was no
re-stimulation as, during those six arduous months, the child has
never been in danger. And, finally, the logical good sense is respected
in this analysis : on the one hand, her maternal anxiety was not conflictual
because she did everything that was dependable on her to help her
child ; on the other hand, the absence of disturbances with the child,
did not make her question herself again. It is clearly the monitoring
that quickly became “unmanageable” for her.
How the conflict was
solved? Two months after the first fatidical test, the child undergoes
another one, which proves to be negative. But they do not tell it
to the mother. The doctors being of opinion that two successive negative
tests are necessary to discard the risk of sudden death, she is told
that another test will have to be performed within two months and
that the monitoring has to be continued. In January, the third test
is negative and the paediatrician completely reassures her : there
is no danger anymore, they take back the monitoring and she can sleep
on both ears again. Feeling that the diagnosis was going to be more
difficult than foreseen, I ask her what she resented : “I was relieved
at last, of course.” To what I retort : “Then, something is wrong!»
Seeing her surprise, I justify my reasoning : if the conflict were
really solved by this good news, she would have started her polyarthritis
within the days following it and not two months later, during the
March holidays! After coming back from the hospital another problem
must have occurred having delayed the real solution. She did not remember,
but as I had to see her soon again to readjust her doses of cortisone,
I proposed her to discuss the matter with her husband to find the
“missing link”.
The next week, I immediately
come to the subject and she tells me : “Yes, I forgot to tell you
something last time and my husband reminded me of it. I had completely
forgotten.” And she gives me the link : after having deposited the
monitor in the hospital and as soon as she got back home, she installed
a baby-phone between the child’s room and hers and made it function
it permanently. We talk about it and she confirms that she was not
really reassured when she came back from the hospital. Thus, in fact,
the conflict was not solved yet ; the baby-phone took the relay of
the monitor. Last question : “When did you store the baby-phone?”
New blackout and same advice from me.
The last piece of
the puzzle will be for the next consultation : “Before leaving on
holidays.” OK. She could now set off the new handicap being her 6-7
months of polyarthritis : she left on holidays reassured … and liberated.
  
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